THE SUN’S Deborah James has shared her heartbreaking wishes for her final days as she reveals she’s planned her funeral.
Also known as Bowel Babe, the 40-year-old has been living with bowel cancer since 2016.
Earlier this week she said she had stopped receiving active treatment and will spend her last days at her parents’ home in Woking.
She said on 5 Live yesterday: “My priority is that I spend time with my family, we are all together, I’m at my parents, it’s always where I supposed I wanted to die.
“My husband, my kids are around. My parents, my brother, and my sister.
“We’ve been having sleepovers, we’ve been doing loads of talking – well I’ve been listening, lying on the sofa, I’ve been doing a lot of sleeping.
- Deborah has urged people to donate to her fundraiser – at bowelbabe.org – which has already raised more than £2million
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“But we are actually out in the sunshine at the moment.
“What I desire is simple things, which is holding my husband’s hand, curling up and watching movies with my daughter, telling them both that I love them, that I love them.
“Just spending time watching the people I love in awe, to just know that they are ok.
“The more I tell them they are going to be ok, the more I tell myself they are going to be ok, I know they are surrounded by love.
“I know they are surrounded by support and I don’t think I could ask for anything more – they will be fine.”
She also revealed she has planned her funeral, which will be in Barnes near to where her family home is.
The mum told the Times: “It sounds morbid, but I want a sombre funeral in black and white because I think people look good in black and white.
“There’s a big church in Barnes and I’ll leave Seb to decide on the reception, as long as there is tequila.
“I’m thinking of asking people to bring a picture or a funny anecdote, so my family have something to remember.
“Otherwise, how can my children collect memories from people in my life they don’t know?
“At 12 and 14 I hope they will remember me, but [they are] still very young, so my image will fade and they will have to rely on videos or photos.”
She added she’d like Tell Me It’s Not True from Blood Brothers to be played and her kids to read poems, if they are able.
